It is very plain to see that the children this generation is raising is the most undisciplined ever. It seems I cannot even go into a store now without encountering a child having a temper tantrum. The most frustrating thing is the parents, who choose just to ignore it, hoping that the situation will correct itself. The situation never does correct itself, and the result is usually an undisciplined child that grows up into an undisciplined adult.
"Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he shall not depart from it." Proverbs 22:6
The word "train" tells us that the child will not discipline itself, nor will he/she eventually grow into it. It takes action on our part as parents.
Back years ago, the standard practice for most parents was "spare the rod and spoil the child". This produced boys and girls that were disciplined and respected authority. These are characteristics that are hard to find in young people today. We are beginning to reap the "benefits" of years of humanistic teaching. The Bible is very clear on the subject of child training, and when we replace Biblical truth with humanistic reason, the results are devastating! We will always err when we replace the infallible (Bible) with the fallible (man).
"He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes." Prov. 13:24
"Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not hy soul spare for his crying." Prov. 19:18
"Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child: but the rod of correction will drive it far from him." Prov. 22:15
While the Bible does teach child discipline, it does not teach child abuse. When correcting your child you MUST remain in control of your emotions at all times! There should never be a time when you strike your child out of anger. The purpose is instruction for the child, not to vent the anger of the parent.
If we practice the simple truths found in the Bible we can expect the following things:
- Our children to go the right way (Prov. 22:6)
- Our children to be wise (Prov. 29:15)
- Our children to be obedient and respect authority (Prov. 13:1)
- Our children to bring us joy (Prov. 15:20; 23:24-25; 29:17)